Holding the Field
Many of us reach a point where we do not know what to do in our lives; something does not feel quite right, and all we know is that we are simply not satisfied. In retrospect, me reaching such a point indicated that I was in search of my purpose in this world. As cheesy as it sounds, each one of us does have a life purpose. We each bring our own unique color and vibrancy to the canvas of life. Part of the wonderful journey that we are on is to figure out exactly what that purpose is. A big indicator of being on the right path is when we feel joy, peace, contentment, love, passion, and fulfillment in what we are doing.
When I was younger, I disliked change, and I lamented my life not staying the way it was, although I was ironically dissatisfied with it. Sometimes a part of that purpose may mean we are meant to be leaders, observers, those who hold space for others, and etc. I truly resonate with holding space for others; I did not always realize that was one of my roles. I knew that I was often involved with projects that were difficult or stressful or situations where the winds of change were blowing mightily (which may be related to me calling change into my life on 12/12/12!).
When I felt like my life was falling apart, which I briefly mention in my blog post Tools for Empaths, I spent significant time facing and accepting my shadow, shining a light in every corner of my being, and calling in the change to find my life purpose and figure out how to heal my heart. I also began to embrace the unexpected, change, and not getting my way/desires. I typically have a plan A, and if that does not work out or an obstacle presents itself, then I am very good at finding another path/option. I have also become better at accepting what is or is not in my control and getting perspective on whether something is truly important. Much of this also involved coaching myself through my fears, forgiveness, and difficult times. Because I am able to show resilience in the face of adversity and find alternatives when presented with obstacles, others have told me that I am very good at dealing with change.
As I mentioned in my previous blog post about Stepping into Stillness, all of that work often allows me to live in my own personal bubble of "everything is awesome". I can much easier act like a boat on the ocean and simply ride the waves of life, with an easy ebb and flow. When those around me are feeling upset, stressed, or worried, I am now better able to hold my field...not letting their splash disrupt the wave I am ridding...or letting their upset, stress, or worry creep into my life and attitude. When I see friends who are not focusing on the self-care they deserve (making time for regular meals or adequate sleep), it is much easier for me to see their state from a place of love and to encourage them to care for and love themselves. I am better able to be the voice of reason when others are pushing themselves too hard because I have been there...and I see the contrast between that place where I was and where I am now.
Even if what I offer regarding self-care, forgiveness, letting go, comfort does not speak to those I know (and those I reach through my blog, YouTube channel, FaceBook page, etc.), I am still able to work on finding the balance in my own life, practice self-care, stay positive, and maintain my bubble of "everything is awesome"...and lead by example. When thinking about holding our fields, we have toroidal fields (like that represented by the tube torus shown in the image above) around our hearts, around our bodies, and around the earth. Even if we cannot see these fields, we can often feel them. Think about those around whom you feel comfortable and at ease. There is something about the aura that they are projecting, the field they have around themselves, that you can feel/sense. Learning to hold our own fields is being that calm within the storm, buoy in rough waters, or foundation stone that helps others to find their center, their balance. It is learning to hold space for ourselves, and thereby, holding space for those around us.
Ways to help hold the field:
A tube torus sacred geometry ornament - the same
shape as the electromagnetic field around the heart
When I was younger, I disliked change, and I lamented my life not staying the way it was, although I was ironically dissatisfied with it. Sometimes a part of that purpose may mean we are meant to be leaders, observers, those who hold space for others, and etc. I truly resonate with holding space for others; I did not always realize that was one of my roles. I knew that I was often involved with projects that were difficult or stressful or situations where the winds of change were blowing mightily (which may be related to me calling change into my life on 12/12/12!).
When I felt like my life was falling apart, which I briefly mention in my blog post Tools for Empaths, I spent significant time facing and accepting my shadow, shining a light in every corner of my being, and calling in the change to find my life purpose and figure out how to heal my heart. I also began to embrace the unexpected, change, and not getting my way/desires. I typically have a plan A, and if that does not work out or an obstacle presents itself, then I am very good at finding another path/option. I have also become better at accepting what is or is not in my control and getting perspective on whether something is truly important. Much of this also involved coaching myself through my fears, forgiveness, and difficult times. Because I am able to show resilience in the face of adversity and find alternatives when presented with obstacles, others have told me that I am very good at dealing with change.
As I mentioned in my previous blog post about Stepping into Stillness, all of that work often allows me to live in my own personal bubble of "everything is awesome". I can much easier act like a boat on the ocean and simply ride the waves of life, with an easy ebb and flow. When those around me are feeling upset, stressed, or worried, I am now better able to hold my field...not letting their splash disrupt the wave I am ridding...or letting their upset, stress, or worry creep into my life and attitude. When I see friends who are not focusing on the self-care they deserve (making time for regular meals or adequate sleep), it is much easier for me to see their state from a place of love and to encourage them to care for and love themselves. I am better able to be the voice of reason when others are pushing themselves too hard because I have been there...and I see the contrast between that place where I was and where I am now.
Even if what I offer regarding self-care, forgiveness, letting go, comfort does not speak to those I know (and those I reach through my blog, YouTube channel, FaceBook page, etc.), I am still able to work on finding the balance in my own life, practice self-care, stay positive, and maintain my bubble of "everything is awesome"...and lead by example. When thinking about holding our fields, we have toroidal fields (like that represented by the tube torus shown in the image above) around our hearts, around our bodies, and around the earth. Even if we cannot see these fields, we can often feel them. Think about those around whom you feel comfortable and at ease. There is something about the aura that they are projecting, the field they have around themselves, that you can feel/sense. Learning to hold our own fields is being that calm within the storm, buoy in rough waters, or foundation stone that helps others to find their center, their balance. It is learning to hold space for ourselves, and thereby, holding space for those around us.
Ways to help hold the field:
- Conscious breathing - being aware of our breathing patterns and modulating/adjusting them to help calm and comfort ourselves.
- Meditation - relaxing the mind and body, practicing mindfulness, cultivating the feeling of relaxation, even when the sea seems stormy.
- Mantras - having words or phrases to help calm ourselves or to put things into perspective (my current one is from Jesus Christ Superstar:
"Try not to get worried, try not to turn onto problems that upset you. Don't you know everything's alright, yes, everything's fine. And we want you to sleep well tonight..."
- Crystals/emblems - use a crystal or a specific token (like a worry stone) to help bring your focus back to the present.
- Learning to self-coach - figuring out what tools you have in your toolbox to deal with stressful situations (which are helpful, which are not, and which you may want to add) and using them to talk yourself through a tough or challenging situation. This may mean acknowledging when you are anxious or angry, talking yourself through putting it into perspective, recognizing what emotion or fear has a hold of you, and allowing that emotion or fear to pass through you (feeling it)/wash over you, knowing that it does not define you, finding ways to release limiting beliefs.
As with everything that I share, please take what speaks to you and leave the rest.
Many blessings!
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