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As I discussed in Learning to Self-sooth – Part 1 , self-soothing is calming and centering ourselves; having tools to help us find our body/mind/heart/spirit connection; and coaching ourselves through whatever is coming our way so that we are then able to make wiser and more confident decisions that will have better outcomes. In Part 1, I also talked about an example of driving/running late, the negative thought spiral that we can begin to go down, and how a major step along my path to learning to self-sooth was discovering my breath and remembering to breathe when I thought life was throwing me a curve ball. To continue on in this series, I want to talk about whether we enjoy how we feel during those times and how we handle those situations and if there are ways that we can change how we react to the unexpected. Plants/flowers growing out of a window in the ruins of Glastonbury Abbey in Glastonbury, England. A good reminder that no matter how bleak and ruinous things m...

This blog post is the first of a series of three about self-soothing.  Self-soothing is the ability to calm ourselves and bring ourselves to a point of centering where we find ourselves being more heart-centered and focused. It is having a toolbox full of tools that can help us find our balance (body, mind, heart, and spirit) and learn to coach ourselves through whatever is coming our way. With the resulting calm, collected, and centered state, we are then able to make wiser and more confident decisions that will have better outcomes. Learning to self-sooth is one of the best personal development tools I have given myself because it has helped me to fundamentally change how I handle situations for the better.   I have talked about several of the tools that I use in my personal growth in many of my videos/blog posts, and I thought it would be good to gather them together through the lens of self-soothing. How often do we have an unexpected or stressful event occur in our l...

Continuing on in my series about Responsibility and Fun, I will say that I am from a part of the US where “pull yourself up by your own bootstraps” is a common phrase or even motto for many people.   In my Taking Time to Be and Learning to Surrender blog posts, I have talked about how I took this self-sufficiency and determination to a whole other level that I describe as having a “Type-A” “death grip” on trying to control my life. Luckily I have learned that, in the words of Ice Cube, “Life ain’t a track meet, it’s a marathon” . Although I have absolutely no desire to ever actually run a marathon, I have decided that I would much rather enjoy the journey of life and have fun instead of living in a cyclone of stress, overwhelm, frustration, annoyance, and anger. These days I would describe myself as “living in my own little bubble of everything is awesome” or “all Zen, Jesus, and Buddha”. In the contrast of the transformation of my life from stress, struggle, and difficulty int...

Over the years I have had numerous people tell me that I am too serious; that I need to have more fun. My close friends know that I do cut loose on occasion and am sometimes even the life of the party. However, I readily admit that there is a part of me that is very studious and always striving; like I have a huge mission to accomplish and there is no rest for the weary. This studiousness takes the shape of watching documentaries and videos, reading lots of books and articles (my reading list is LONG), making videos, writing blog posts, taking healing classes, etc. These days I also make time for things like self-care, meditation, socializing, dancing, yoga, and doing nothing. A recent conversation with a friend and some other observations really got me thinking: Why do so many of us think that adulting is no fun? Moreover, why do so many of us over-schedule ourselves with all of the things we think we “should” be doing so that we do not have room in our lives for things that would f...